Simone Abrahamsohn, residing in Toronto, shared her experience of becoming her big brother’s primary caregiver after losing her mother. Navigating life as middle-aged, neurodivergent siblings living together presents both joys and challenges.
Her brother, Stuart, an autistic individual and left-brain stem stroke survivor, requires specialized care including assistance with meals due to hand tremors, transfers from wheelchair to commode, bathing, grooming, and emotional support. Simone reflects on their childhood, where Stuart’s introversion, stimming behavior, and self-talk caused embarrassment, highlighting the lack of understanding from others.
Despite their differences, Simone acknowledges her own challenges with ADHD and the importance of managing her behaviors to maintain harmony at home. She recalls masking her ADHD symptoms and the societal pressure to conform to neurotypical standards, distancing herself from Stuart’s experiences.
Now, as Stuart’s roommate, Simone aims to advocate for him and create a supportive environment. She emphasizes the need to be present, communicate openly, and involve Stuart in decision-making processes. Sacrificing personal pursuits for their relationship, Simone embraces the opportunity to enhance their living situation through external support and a positive mindset.
By prioritizing their bond and mutual understanding, Simone strives to make amends for past regrets and seize the chance to foster a stronger sibling connection in their unique circumstances.